MALAYSIA: EVERY year, surveys show that Malaysians (like most Asians) fair very poorly when it comes to sex. We make love almost 50 per cent less often than the top European countries, and complain that sex becomes very much less exciting as we grow older.
Of the 10 worst lovers, consistently most are Asians (countries). In Hong Kong, men are too busy making money to bother about sex.
There are many reasons for this. Nowadays, everyone is obsessed with the need to earn more money. Some have two jobs, and both the men and women work long hours to keep up with their expenses.
The modern lifestyle means that we have to earn more because we have to spend more! Everyone is much more stressed than before. Even the Internet has robbed us of many hours of time that could otherwise be spent making love!
There is not much time for rest, recreation, being with loved ones and the family, and also little time for sex and romance. Poor diet and lifestyle, with lack of exercise, make the matter worse. Many of us have heart disease, hypertension, diabetes, obesity, and lack energy. All these health problems lead to poor libido (desire), frigidity, erectile dysfunction, impotency, premature ejaculation and frustration.
As men get older and unhealthier, their desire diminishes, and many lose the ability to have good, lasting erections. Many more suffer from premature ejaculation. Many younger women suffer from lack of libido, and many become disinterested in sex after menopause.
So even if there is time for sex, many have either lost their libido or cannot perform properly, and therefore don't enjoy sex fully.
How to recharge your sex life
What can you do to recharge your sex life and recover your youthful libido and performance?
Taking care of your diet and weight, managing time, work and stress, and regular exercise are some obvious steps you should take.
For ageing men and women, sex hormones may need to be taken. But these may not be enough to quickly restore your libido and sexual energy. Since sexual energy is a form of qi (life force), one sure way is to practise qigong.
Ever wonder how the old Chinese emperors satisfied their 1,000 young concubines? I will teach you their secret.
Those who practise any form of qigong correctly will have noticed some improvements in their health and energy level, and some will also notice the improvement in their sexual health. But those who want drastic improvements in sexual energy and performance will have to practise sexual qigong.
Shaolin Zifa Sexual Qigong
Sometime back I described some exercises of the Secret Treasures Qigong (see Secrets of Qigong at http://www.superqigong.com/articlesmore.asp?id=84). Today I will describe the Shaolin Zifa Sexual Qigong.
While there are many styles of qigong that are good for sexual health, this style can help you restore your libido if you practise regularly.
This qigong style is unique in that the sexual qi is quickly charged as you do the exercises, which involve shaking and vibrating the sexual organs. But don't try this at home without learning properly from the master. You may injure yourself!
The shaking and vibrating exercises enhance and distribute the qi to the whole body for health and healing, and when concentrated on the kidneys, pelvis and sexual organs, they will help restore and endurance quickly. This applies to both men and women. The men will have strong and lasting erections, and timely ejaculations; and the women will have better sensation, lubrication, grip and orgasm. The exercises will tighten their vaginas and prevent uterine prolapse as well.
It is obvious that male and female students have to have separate classes, with the females being taught by a female master or teacher.
The exercises are done in the standing, sitting and sleeping positions, so you can imagine how versatile you can be in bed!
After you have learned, you can practise at home for faster results. At home, in the privacy of your bedroom, you actually get better results if you practise naked. During the sexual qigong exercises, you are required to think of sex and focus your mind and qi to the sexual organs. Males will know that they have succeeded when they get erections, but it is not so easy for women.
There are many sexual qigong exercises from various qigong styles. Unfortunately it will be inappropriate for me to describe these in detail here. They all involve holding, massaging, "cupping" and "charging" the sexual organs and the surrounding areas; exercises for the pelvic muscles and kidneys; and learning to focus the qi to these areas.
Many people get excited when they discover about sexual qigong, and some do go for lessons. However, I must warn those who go for lessons that they must attend the lessons regularly, and also practise by themselves regularly in between.
Otherwise it will take a long time before they see any results. This is because the cumulative effect of regular charging, unblocking, and improving the qi-flow is essential for results to be possible.
While qigong is indeed a booster for sexual health, you must not neglect your cardiovascular fitness as sexual function is intimately linked to cardiovascular health, especially in men.
So if you are not doing aerobic exercises 30 minutes three times per week, you are not doing enough to keep your body healthy. It is even better if you can exercise daily.
The benefits of aerobics exercise are numerous and well understood. I only wish to remind that aerobics and qigong exercises are complementary. If you also do stretching, toning and muscle-building exercises, then your physical health programme is complete and you can expect to be in tip-top health.
Dr Amir Farid Isahak is a medical specialist who practises holistic, aesthetic and anti-ageing medicine. He is a qigong master and founder of SuperQigong. For further information, e-mail email@example.com.
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This story was first published in The Star on Apr 20, 2008.