A RING is an important part of an engagement but the emphasis on size is not. The ring should be what a man can afford.

The first year of marriage is when you get used to each other's habits and quirks. After the initial euphoria begins to fade, it will take more than a big diamond ring to keep it all together.

It would be even more stressful to start a marriage with financial problems, given the cost of a diamond ring.

What if the tables were turned? In some cultures, the fiancee buys an item of significant value for her man.

Perhaps, as part of the engagement, he should request for a Rolex watch or a state-of-the-art stereo for his car.

Then he can boast to his buddies about what a great 'catch' she is.