Long distance relationships have always been tainted by negative beliefs, holding the stigma that they fail more often than they succeed. There are too many challenges to keeping the relationship alive due to travel reasons alone.
I've never believed in one, and I've never thought that i'll jumped into one until last summer, when my boyfriend of three years had to leave for university, halfway across the world.
Honestly, at first glance, I was absolutely pessimistic about the whole outlook. I began searching online for relatable quotes, and read successful stories of long distance couples. I even wanted to ruin my boyfriend's opportunity - then i realised it was just really selfish.
It's so hard to imagine any perks of being in a long distance relationship if you're not in one. Then, I thought to myself at one point, "Why not just take this as a challenge? Take it as an opportunity to grow individually and my boyfriend?"
Well, challenge accepted.
More and more people are finding themselves in a long distance relationship, whether by choice or not.
It is definitely not easy to sustain, but it has been proven that having a successful long distance relationship is possible. I am still trying, and hopefully at the end of his university education, i can proudly declare that we conquered the distance!
Here are some tips on how to maintain a long distance relationship that I can offer, based on personal experience.
Again, I am not an expert nor a relationship consultant. However, these tips might be relevant or at least, they can help deal with some problems of being physically far apart.
1) Communication is the key
One of the most important things you can do to stay emotionally close is to communicate on a daily basis.
The internet age has made communication so feasible - gone were the days where you have to pay a huge sum of bills just for talking on the phone. Use internet phone/video services such as Skype to keep costs manageable, you'll be able to talk to and see your partner face-to-face too.
With the upsurge of applications such as Whatsapp and Viber, you can leave messages and reach out to your partner at any time.
You dont have to send heartfelt or long text messages (although, it is always heartwarming to receive a loving text message), sharing something interesting that happened to you that day or something that you just need to vent out, will keep you and your partner close even though you're technically far away from each other.