We just found out we're expecting a baby. Can we still make love in the first few months?
It's safe to have intercourse during the first trimester if you're having a low-risk pregnancy, says Dr Seng. But if you experience vaginal bleeding, which is not uncommon during the first trimester, you should wait and resume sexual activities only after your 12th week. Discuss this with your doctor if you're concerned.
How about during the rest of the pregnancy?
Don't worry, sexual activities won't affect your foetus, Dr Seng assures. Your developing baby is protected by the amniotic fluid in your uterus, as well as the strong muscles of the uterus itself.
You can have intercourse, as long as the pregnancy is progressing normally, and there are no complications such as unexplained vaginal bleeding, preterm labour, preterm leaking of amniotic fluid and a low-lying placenta.
I've heard that having sex in the last trimester can speed up labour. True?
That's just a myth. Many women have intercourse until the last weeks of pregnancy, but sex won't induce labour, says Dr Seng.
My tummy is huge! What are the best lovemaking positions for us?
As your pregnancy progresses, explore and experiment to find out what works. There's no one best position.
Let your creativity take over, as long as you keep mutual pleasure and comfort in mind, says Dr Seng. Need inspiration? Dr Lee suggests five positions.
Yes, the man-on-top position can still work. Position pillows to take the weight off your tummy.
Hubby stands on the floor, while your legs dangle over the edge of the bed.
- Doggie style
You can crouch on all fours while he penetrates from behind. Cushion your tummy or knees with pillows for extra comfort.
Lie next to him sideways on the same side. This way, you won't stress your joints.
Sit on top on him. You'll have full control over how deep he goes.
Can we still use lubricants and toys such as vibrators?
Yes, it's safe to use lubricants to keep you moist. Vibrators are okay, too, as long as they're gentle, says Dr Seng.
Get some pillows as well, adds Dr Lee. They can help you balance better, and relieve stress on knees, elbows and joints.