When friendships get tested

When friendships get tested

So the girls' weekend went swimmingly until the ride home.

Up until then, it had been pretty much a perfect couple of days in the mountains.

I love weekends with mums because you: 1) never go hungry 2) are never left with ALL the washing up 3) know that the sheets and towels will be laundered before you leave.

In fact, as we sat around the fire pit on Saturday night, roasting smores under the stars, one of us said the best thing for her marriage was a bottle of wine and her girl friends.

We had spent a relaxing afternoon at the spa, followed by cocktails of vodka with lime juice and ginger-infused cane syrup, and a simple but delectable dinner of shrimp and grits.

Indeed, we were so well set up at Debbie's house that we hardly left it at all, apart from the spa date and a bit of shopping.

Instead, we wrapped ourselves in a cosy cocoon of care and affirmation, as only women know how, with no disharmony to spoil it.

Those jarring notes sounded only when we were well on the way home, when one of our friends got a text that her child was in some sort of trouble back home.

While everyone voiced support and sympathy, it is likely all our minds went to one of two reactions: Either "I wonder if my kid is mixed up in this too", or "Thank goodness my kid is not likely to be part of this".

Thus rude reality reared its head and let us know we were back to normal life.

Not only was our idyllic weekend over, but some of our friendships were about to be tested as well.

For while it is easy to stand together in solidarity regarding husbands - who doesn't grumble about spouses? - it was apparently less clear cut when it came to the children.

Like many women of our age, it was through them that most of us had met and become friends. As time passed, the children's friendships and ours took parallel tracks, sometimes deviating a little from each other as specific relationships waxed and waned but never straying too far apart.

That day, however, we passed into uncharted territory when we hied on home and found out from our kids which of those reactions had been correct.

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