After reading "Tuition for Sports?" (The New Paper, Oct 3), I wonder if children in Singapore are being stressed to the point of being abused. I have read articles on how children have to go for a lot of private tuition, with their parents pouring their hardearned money into it.
What I would like to ask these parents is this: Are you really worried about your children's future or are you worried about losing face?
I know many parents compare their children with others, which I am sure is harmful because some children are late bloomers.
I was born in the early 1970s. Many parents at that time were already very kiasu.
I remember when I was in Primary 5, I was happy to have scored 90 points in maths. A classmate scored 98 but he was crying.
I thought he was shedding tears of joy, but I was shocked to find out that his parents would scold him for not getting a perfect score. He told me his parents would lose face because other kids they knew had scored 100.
When I went home, my parents were happy with my result and encouraged me to keep up my good work. In those days, private tuition was not seen as essential.
My parents encouraged me to try out different things like music, art and sports, but they never forced me to go for tuition.
I love sports and I am good at it - enough to represent my school in badminton, table tennis and tennis.