Struggle with identity after miscarriage

Ms Li Xueying's column ("Loss and love on the journey to parenthood"; last Sunday) touched me deeply and expressed how I felt - and still feel - after I lost my first baby at 11 weeks last September.

What resonated with me most was when she shared how her first pregnancy changed her and her husband. Your world does shift with a pregnancy, even if you don't end up with a baby in your arms.

One of the things I struggled with after my miscarriage was my identity - am I now a mother or not?

These days, when people ask me if I have children, I find it difficult to come up with an answer. Usually, to avoid awkwardness, I would say "no", even though I know my baby existed.

Ms Li's happy ending gives me hope that in time, I'll have my own happy ending, too.

Jamie Ee Wen Wei (Ms)

This article was first published on March 22, 2015.
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