Does it feel like you're the only one pulling your weight in the relationship? Get some balance back! SASHA GONZALES finds solutions to three "unequal" scenarios.
You're always doing the household chores
It doesn't matter that you've had a long day at work - your husband still expects you to cook, clean and do the grocery runs while he chillaxes on the couch. His excuse? "A guy like me shouldn't be doing housework!"
The Fix: Stroke His Ego
One way to get your hubby to pull his weight around the house is to make him believe he's good at it. "To get my husband to vacuum, I tell him that he's better than me at getting the floors clean," says Evelyn Chong, a 38-year-old administrative assistant. Bonus? He may even think it was his idea.
You're settling all the bills
He claims he's rubbish with money - so you're paying for everything. In addition, your hubby leaves big financial decisions - like how much to spend on the home renovation or how to invest your joint savings - to you, saying he's fine with whatever you decide.
The Fix: Start Delegating
Instead of bemoaning how he's never on top of the bills, start "outsourcing" some fiscal responsibility to your husband. Let him settle a few bills, or entrust him with a key financial decision. If he needs persuading, wheedle him with compliments like, "Hon, we have to book our family holiday soon. Since you know where to find the best airfares, you can get the plane tickets, okay?"
You're the one initiating sex and date nights
No flowers and gifts for you. Your husband sits back and lets you make all the romantic plans - and that includes asking him for sex. It almost feels like you have to beg for his affection!
The Fix: Put the Fun Back Into Your Love Life
He may have stopped taking the initiative because your relationship has gotten stale, so fire up his interest first, says Vanessa Marin, a sex and relationship therapist from San Francisco. Whisper to him to think of new sex positions you can try together, or hint that you'd love to take a romantic holiday. A sure way to get him hot and bothered? Send him a sexy text when he's at work. Continue the text teasing until you get home, by which time he will be so turned on that he will take the lead!
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