How my in-laws strengthen my marriage

How my in-laws strengthen my marriage

“We live with my in-laws, and whenever my husband and I have a tiff, my mother-in-law has a plan: Instead of making us feel that we have to eat at the dining table together and pretend all is well, she tells my father-in-law to take her out for a meal, on the pretext that she is craving something. This way, Hubby and I have some space to discuss things and resolve our differences. When they come home, things are usually back to normal.” – Janet Wong*, 28, banker

“I remember the first time my sister-in-law, who had emigrated, came to visit. I had been married only a few months. My in-laws had a big garden party and my sister-in-law, who knew her way around and was very capable, did a lot of work for the party. But she gave me credit for it. It was a very sweet gesture on her part and gave me some brownie points as a new bride.” – Sheila Bhandari*, 40, stay-at-home mum

“I used to have a formal relationship with my in-laws. But a few years into our marriage, my husband and I decided to emigrate. The plan was for me to go back to university for a year, taking our three- and five year-old sons with me. Once I got a job, my husband would follow. I got anxious when my in-laws asked to visit us. But to my amazement, they rented a car, did the grocery shopping, cooked, washed, ironed, cleaned and baby-sat – all without fuss. Their two-week visit flew by, and when they left, I was sad to see them go. The support they gave was unconditional. During that difficult year, my in-laws were a much bigger bonus than I could ever have imagined.” – Samantha Chan*, 38, teacher

“Every family has one in-law who tries to neutralise the atmosphere when there is an argument. In my case, it’s my brother-in-law. One day, I baked a cake when my mother-in-law was out. When she came home, she opened the fridge to see how much butter I had used. When she saw that my husband, father-in-law and brother-in-law had already finished their slices, she said to my husband, ‘The cake was dry, right? She didn’t use the whole slab of butter.’ My husband agreed with her while my brother-in-law stood up for me and said: ‘It’s such a yummy cake, I want another slice!’ My father-in-law followed suit.” – Rena Khan*, 38, marketing manager

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Sunita Shahdadpuri is a freelance writer with Simply Her magazine by SPH Magazines.
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