Chinese parents relocating for kids face hard choice

Chinese parents relocating for kids face hard choice

Tang Xiaobing hasn't seen her 14-year-old son since March when she left him in the United States and travelled back to China alone.

Now, the 45-year-old Beijing resident faces the prospect of another eight months of separation-and all because she tried to do the right thing. When her son began studying at a high school in the state of Connecticut in June 2013, Tang became one of a growing number of Chinese parents who move abroad and take up residence close to their offspring.

Despite speaking little English and fully aware that she would see little of her son, and would even have to e-mail the school to arrange meetings with him, Tang travelled to the US in March 2013 to find a place to live.

When the boy started at the new school, she went with him.

"I couldn't let my son go by himself because he had never been apart from me during the past 14 years. Even though we wouldn't see each other often, I hoped that he would feel, 'Ah, Mom isn't far away' whenever he thought about me," she said.

Now, though, she won't be able to visit the US again for at least a year because of visa issues, and the pain of separation grows stronger every day.

Tang's story is all too familiar to Li Peng, deputy general manager of Kentrexs Education Group, which arranges for young Chinese to study in the US. Li said that as an increasing number of students from well-to-do families head overseas at a young age to study, a growing army of parents, mostly mothers, are accompanying them.

Li's agency arranges for about 300 Chinese students to study overseas every year. "Of those, about one or two dozen parents express a willingness to accompany their children whatever the cost, and that number will keep on rising," he said.

However, Kentrexs doesn't encourage parents to move abroad and act as traveling companions, especially if the child is headed for the US.

"The education system in the US is mature, and young Chinese students will be asked to attend boarding schools or stay with host families. Whatever the circumstances, the children will be well-protected and supervised. As such, there's no need for parents to stay on, especially as they will seldom see their children even if they live in the same place," he said.

Despite the setbacks, Tang's only goal is to return to the US and be with her son. "I hope to go back as soon as possible and continue as his companion," she said.

Positions reversed

Wu Ping and her 15-year-old son, a ninth-grader at a high school, live in a rented house in New Haven, home of the famous Yale University.

At first, Wu seems no different to any other Chinese mother overseas, but her story is very different.

"In the first place, rather than me coming here to keep an eye on my son, he came here to keep an eye me while I recuperated after an illness," the 46-year-old Beijing native said.

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