In 1984, I had served for a total of 13 years as Singapore's Permanent Representative to the United Nations. I was ready for a new assignment. I was happy when informed that I would succeed my old teacher at the National University of Singapore Law School, Punch Coomaraswamy, as Singapore's fourth Ambassador to the United States.
I told my wife that although New York and Washington DC were only a few hundred miles apart, the nature of my old and new postings was different. The UN posting was a multilateral posting and my mission was to represent Singapore in the Parliament of the world. My job was to befriend and earn the goodwill of as many delegations as possible.
Washington was a bilateral posting and my job was to earn the friendship, goodwill and support of the government and people of the United States for Singapore.
I also told my wife that in Washington, I would need her involvement in and support for my work. The Americans expected the Ambassador and his wife to take an active part in the social, cultural and philanthropic life of the city. As the representatives of a small country, we had to work harder and smarter in order to gain visibility, relevance and access.
As my wife had a medical degree, I encouraged her to help two medical charities. There was a new hospital in Washington called The National Rehabilitation Hospital. It specialised in treating patients who had suffered strokes or spinal injuries as a result of accidents. The First Lady, Mrs Nancy Reagan, was the patron of the hospital. My wife accepted an invitation to serve on the hospital's board.
My wife also accepted an invitation to serve on the board of the Multiple Sclerosis Society.
Multiple sclerosis is a disorder in which the nerves of the eye, brain and spinal cord lose patches of their protective insulation known as myelin. The Society raised money to fund medical research into the disease and to find a cure for it.
My wife enjoyed working with the two medical charities and we tried, in our modest ways, to contribute to their work and finances. She introduced me to the many friends she made. This helped to expand my network in Washington to include thought leaders in medical research, health care and philanthropy.
Power women in Washington
Soon after I arrived in Washington, I discovered that there were eight powerful women's clubs with the unassuming name of International Neighbour Clubs. Many of the powerful women of Washington belonged to these clubs. Admission was by invitation only. There was a rule that, in each club, there would be equal numbers of Democrats and Republicans.
The wife of an American friend got an invitation for my wife to join her club. I encouraged my wife to accept the invitation and to play an active role in it.
She did such a good job that, after a number of years, she was elected as the president of her club.
The members of my wife's club included the then only woman on the US Supreme Court, Justice Sandra Day O'Connor. Other prominent members included the wife of the Attorney-General, Mrs Ed Meese; the wife of the US Trade Representative, Mrs Clayton Yeutter; the wife of the highly respected Republican senator, Mrs Alan Simpson; the wife of the veteran Democratic African-American congressman from New York, Mrs Charlie Rangel, and the wife of the President of the American University.
My wife became my secret weapon when I wanted to invite an American leader to come home to have dinner with a visiting minister.
I remember on one occasion, our then Minister for Trade and Industry, Mr S. Dhanabalan, was visiting Washington. I wanted to host a dinner in his honour. Instead of approaching Mr Clayton Yeutter's office, I asked my wife to phone his wife to find out whether they were available. Mrs Yeutter said they were. My wife then requested she let her husband's staff know that they had accepted our invitation to dinner.