Love drives his hope

Love drives his hope
Ryan, now two years old, (with father, Mr Chandru Vishindas, and grandmother, Madam Rani Sham Baharani) cannot walk or talk. He is undergoing tests to determine the cause.

It was a video featuring a husband declaring his love for his wife who has been in a coma for two years.

And it has struck a chord among many who have seen it online.

Mr Chandru Vishindas, 35, posted the 12-minute video on a website he created for Madam Pooja Baharani Ghansham, 35.

"I want you to know that when you wake up someday," he says in the video, while speaking directly to the camera, "when God decides to wake you up, I want you to know that I truly love you and forever I will be with you.

"And I miss you so much. I can't live my life without you."

He adds, in the video, that life without her is unbearable but he has to trudge on because of their two kids. He wants his wife to know that he has done his best for them.

He says: "Everywhere I go, whatever I do, I walk alone, but I walk with the shadow of your love and I walk knowing you are always beside me."

Mr Chandru, who has been married for about 10 years, recalled how his life suddenly changed that fateful day on June 20, 2012. It was supposed to be a day of joy, a celebration of the birth of his son.

But that quickly turned into a nightmare.

Mr Chandru, a Singaporean who runs his family business, said he and his wife, affectionately known as Pinky, were at the National University Hospital at 8.30am for the induced birth.

About 14 hours later, Ryan was born.

But Mr Chandru said his wife started to bleed profusely. He declined to specify what caused the bleeding.

"They sent her to the operating theatre to stitch her up but she was still bleeding," he said.

She was even given 16 pints of blood.

Meanwhile, Ryan, whom his wife has not even met, developed complications at the time of birth and had to be warded in the Intensive Care Unit (ICU) for 10 days.

Madam Pooja, too, was sent to the ICU.

Ryan, now two years old, has missed all his important developmental milestones like crawling, walking and talking. He is still undergoing tests to determine the problem.

Mr Chandru said: "When you expect joy and you get devastation, you can't comprehend or accept it."

It has been two years since that tragic day and he has not given up.

He said: "Love - it is priceless but also selfish. It gives you determination and you go all out at all costs."

Instead of putting Madam Pooja in a hospice, her family opted to keep her at home.

Mr Chandru said: "After all, she's the queen of the house and she's still around. "Otherwise, how to give her the best?"

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