'Raising a kid alone is tough, but we're not giving up'

'Raising a kid alone is tough, but we're not giving up'
Profile of a single mum.

SINGAPORE - Two of them tell The New Paper on Sunday that while they get fewer perks than married mothers, they have no regrets giving birth to their kids

Who wants to be a single mother?

Who wants to go around having to explain that bump, the missing wedding band and the absent husband?

Single mothers say they are always judged. The whispers never stop, and that's just within the family.

The Government has gone beyond taking baby steps to help single mothers. But there are still differences when it comes to the benefits they receive.

Like the $6,000 Baby Bonus cash gift, which married mothers get for their first and second children. Single mums are not eligible.

Two single mothers say they made a mistake with the men they trusted. But ending the pregnancy was not a mistake they were prepared to make.


Kay, 22 was planning to get married to her boyfriend, but changed her mind when he started being abusive after she moved in with him.

"He would spit on me and even hit me. For the sake of my child's wellbeing and mine, I had to do what was right for the both of us and leave," she says as tears rolled down her cheeks.

Kay and her son cannot be identified because of an ongoing court case with her son's father over access to the boy.

She fell in love with her boyfriend, a foreigner, in January 2011. A year later, she found out she was pregnant.

She has been the child's sole caregiver since he was born in 2013.

As her family are very religious, they struggled to accept her pregnancy and eventually kicked her out of home.

She has been living at her sister's place since.

"I can't live at my sister's forever. At some point, we will have to give them their space because she has her own family.

"I'm ready to start working the moment my son goes to childcare in March. I already have a job at the supermarket down the road from where I live," she says.

She currently survives on $700 which she gets from the Ministry of Social and Family Development, as well as $350 from another organisation, given out in a combination of cash and grocery vouchers.

While thankful for the help she already receives, Kay is hoping for a place of her own.

She has applied multiple times to HDB for a rental flat to live in, but was rejected.

Kay says she is not expecting to earn a lot with her limited education, so the heavily-subsidised rental she is hoping to pay will help leave most of the money she makes for her son.

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