Study mama confesses to affairs: I did it for easier life

Study mama confesses to affairs: I did it for easier life

SINGAPORE - "It takes two hands to clap," declares the study mama from Dalian, China, in an interview with The New Paper on Sunday.

She looks this correspondent straight in the eye, then volunteers a startling piece of information: "I have been involved in relationships with two married men before."

The last one, she adds, ended in January.

But there was much ugliness and drama before that, reveals 44-year-old Mabelle.

We are using only her English name to avoid identifying her son, 15. He is in the Integrated Programme (IP) of one of the top schools here.

Mabelle says she is willing to share her experience because she feels that "it is grossly unfair to blame PRC women" when a family breaks down. She is aware that her comments could invite a backlash, but she says in Mandarin: "Who cares? I don't owe anyone a living. If there is any reason for concern, it would just be my son, because he is innocent."

Two weeks ago, a young woman posted the video of her mother confronting her father and his alleged mistress, a Chinese study mama.

The young woman claimed that her father "took every single thing that's worth money from my mother", including jewellery and money intended for her education. The video, shared on the young woman's Facebook, went viral.

She defended her actions when comments started coming in: "People condemned this action... But why do I do this? We sought help actively. Everywhere we went, they pushed us around...

Someone just teach me what to do. Talk to him nicely? We did. Seek help from people around us? We did. Enough is enough."

Mabelle fits the stereotype of a man-eater. She is a beauty with long black hair, who favours clothes that show off her buxom figure.

She knows that she is sexy and she has no qualms using her looks to her advantage.

Mabelle arrived in Singapore in 2007, accompanying her son, who was aged nine then. She and her husband borrowed the equivalent of about $10,000, just to put the boy in school here.

She gave it a decent go at making money, she says, but hated her first two jobs - as a foot reflexology therapist, then a packer in a factory.

She subsequently worked as a hawker's assistant at a food centre, where she met the married cabby in 2009. They had an affair for 15 months.

She claims she dumped him when she realised he was "not really that rich".

"He could give me only $100, $200 a week," she says without batting an eyelid. "I could have earned more money if I continued to work instead."

Her son got a scholarship after his excellent PSLE results, but she says money was still tight. "It was hard making ends meet and I got fed-up of having to work so hard."

She says she could not depend on her husband, who was working as a kitchen helper in China to repay their loan.

Mabelle has watched the viral video and she admits she is grateful her ex-lover's family did nothing of that sort to her.

She says: "My son showed me the video and he told me that I was lucky I did not end up like this woman. He was right, you know?"

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