Bonding with kids at home as a stay-at-home-mum

Bonding with kids at home as a stay-at-home-mum

I closely relate to the article, Goodbye Office, Hello Family Time (SundayLife!, March 8).

I made the decision to leave the workforce last year when my children were aged seven and nine.

It was a difficult decision as I had been passionate about my teaching job of a decade at a local tertiary institution.

However, the demands of an educator go way beyond teaching and I found myself constantly too tired after work to coach my children.

As teaching staff are not allowed to take leave during the academic term, I found myself barely spending time with my children during their school vacations, which are different from the institution's.

After long consideration and with the support of my husband, I left the job.

As I was drawing a respectable income, some adjustments had to be made.

Previously, I would host birthday parties for my children and buy many fancifully designed cakes.

During their most recent birthdays, I bought cakes from a popular cake chain and they were the least expensive cakes that I had ever bought for them.

There were also no more birthday parties but, instead, we held simple celebrations at home. However, their happiness was no less.

In fact, I've not seen my children smiling so happily at their birthdays before.

With many guests to entertain at their previous parties, they never felt that the parties were meant for them.

Although there are moments when I wish I were still working full time, I consider myself privileged to be able to spend time with my children during their growing up years.

Meanwhile, I have managed to pursue my personal interest of grooming, make-up and etiquette training; conducting image management and etiquette courses in schools and community clubs.

Never have I felt such satisfaction and fulfillment in my career as a stay-at-home-mum.

Joy Koh Chi Er

This article was first published on Mar 14, 2015.
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