Father Figure

Father Figure

These dads lead busy lives but always carve out time for their kids. They're easy on the eye too!

Abraham Nikhil, 32, business owner
Has a son - Cyrus Rey, 11

They bond over… Prawn fishing every week. "My son is quite good at it and he's taught me how to catch as many prawns as possible. The trick is to place your bait and hook at the side of the pool as that's where the prawns like to 'hang out'.

I didn't do very well in school but I now run my own business. I want my son to know that he can go very far if he's motivated, loves what he does and puts his mind to it. Cyrus loves computer games, so I've told him to figure out how to create them."

His tip: Bring yourself down to your child's level. "Do the things he wants to do, not just the ones you've planned for him. It's about watching them, hearing their stories and letting them have their own voice, rather than brush aside what they're saying."

Gregory Goh, 36, teacher
Has three kids - Jared Nicholas, eight; Natalie Claire, seven; Cadence Faith, five

He believes in… Patience. "My middle child, Natalie, is very weak in Chinese and although I don't speak the language much, I will sit and guide her patiently. I want her to love the subject, not be frightened of it. It has worked, I believe, as she has shown improvement."

His tip: Hold off punishment, rationalise instead. "A lot of parents tell their kids what they did wrong but seldom tell them how to correct it. I realised that my children were becoming so used to the punishment that its effect was lost on them. I now reason with them instead, so they can understand why they have to do certain things."

Leonard Tan, 31, service professional
Has three children - Leon, seven; Chloe, five; Jewel, one

He believes in... Really understanding his little ones. "I always ask about their day as I want them to know they can talk to me about anything, be it their personal lives or their deepest fears. I want my children to understand that no matter what happens, whether they've been good or bad, I'll love them just the same."

His tip: Have a second childhood with your kids. "Play with them, think like them and take an interest in what they enjoy doing. That's how you become their friend instead of just remaining an authority figure."

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