He's so much older, but he's rich!

He's so much older, but he's rich!

Should she go for him despite the big age gap just because of his wealth?

Dear Thelma,

I'm a 27-year-old Chinese girl and people tell me I'm pretty. But I don't lead an active social life like most of my friends and colleagues around my age.

About a year ago, I met a handsome Indian doctor who works in a prestigious private hospital in Kuala Lumpur. He has been divorced for many years.

I am attracted to his charming ways and he's also attracted to me. The problem is he's already 50. So far, our communication is mostly through the phone and social media, and I meet him at his clinic for business purposes.

We have not gone on any serious dates as I've been declining his invitations. I'm afraid that I will be embarrassed to be seen in public in a relationship with someone obviously so much older than me.

He has been calling me persistently and sending me intimate messages every day and I find it very hard to resist his advances as I like the attention very much.

I admit I do flirt shamelessly with him as well. He has also confessed that he's interested in marriage and children as age is catching up with him. He doesn't have any children now.

I'm undecided and I really don't want children yet. I know he will be able to provide me with a comfortable life but I'm concerned about the differences in our age and race.

Sometimes when I look at him, I feel we don't really match. I've not told my family yet but my close friends whom I confide in have all told me that he is too old for me.

I admit I feel we don't have much in common too. In the beginning, there was a special feeling whenever we talked but lately, he seems "boring".

I also think my family would not approve. Some of my colleagues have also been talking behind my back saying I am going after his money.

Sometimes, I think maybe I don't really love him and am attracted to the material comforts he can provide. I don't get that loving feeling.

I feel like I'm cheating him but I'm afraid I will lose the opportunity of marrying a rich and successful doctor, and may regret it later in life.

I have been keeping the relationship warm by telling him I'm madly in love as I'm afraid to lose him now. What shall I do?

- Young But Realistic

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