I'm 14 and in love with my teacher

I'm 14 and in love with my teacher

Sometimes, it's hard to tell the difference between infatuation and love.

Dear Thelma,

I'm just a regular 14-year-old girl, but when I moved to my new school, I met this teacher. She's a beautiful Canadian woman who teaches Physical Education.

She has beautiful, smooth, strawberry-scented brown hair and deep, melting brown eyes. Her name is Jessica and I've developed feelings for her.

It stopped for a while, but now the feelings are back and even stronger. I confessed to her about how I felt on Facebook and she said that feelings like these are inappropriate, and that she's 20 years older, which really upset me.

I know her, and I feel she can come up with a better response and maybe give better solutions. She told my counsellor, who in turn, told my mum. It was all really intense.

They all checked out my Facebook because this student, who was also my best friend, sent them screen shots of my post about Jessica.

We aren't friends anymore because she doesn't deserve my trust, and now, she's stealing Jessica away from me.

Jessica doesn't teach my class but she teaches my ex-friend's class. Now I have my own therapist. I swear I'm not crazy. I'm not obsessed either, I'm just in love with someone whom I have a 0.1 per cent chance of being with.

Now Jessica is ignoring me and it hurts. She knows all my problems, and was there for me during my darkest hour. It's hard to forget someone who has given me so much to remember.

Every day I look back and think about our last words which we shared. She said, "OK?"

And I said, "OK," and a few seconds after she left, I said, "Maybe 'OK' could be our 'always'." She was just standing at the door talking to some student. But I think she heard. I'm glad she did because I want her to know how much she means to me. -Okay

Dear Okay,

It is hard being a teenager. It is bad enough that your body is going through so many changes. To make things worse, there are also social changes that further confuse one.

Adding more spice to the soup is the development of feelings that were never there before. There are new feelings for things and causes, for example.

Suddenly, things that didn't matter before take on a new significance. Many teenagers decide that they want to become vegetarians, much to the chagrin of their meat-eating parents and family, for example.

Sometimes, teenagers start developing feelings for other people. Some may call it infatuation. Others may call it a crush. Often, it is mistaken for love. These things happen. For many teenagers like you, it is a normal experience.

This is not to undermine or disregard what you are feeling or how strong it is. Instead, it is to point out that, perhaps, you are confusing this feeling with something that it is not.

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