Should children be raised by their grandparents?

Should children be raised by their grandparents?

In today's competitive world when parents are busy accomplishing their career goals, more and more children are being brought up by their grandparents.

It is reported that 90 per cent of children under the age of three in Shanghai are being looked after by a grandparent.

Forum readers shared their opinion with China Daily.

Rajashree (Singapore):

My parents take care of my 3 year old daughter when I am away at work, and I think that is the best thing that has ever happened to her. I am blessed to have such parents.

A lot of traditions, family values and culture are passed on to her. I can never stop thanking my parents for coming over from India and staying with me to take care of my child.

Wyldsyde (Australia):

Why should grandparents be the ones who watch children on a daily basis? The answer is that they should not. Grandparents already raised their children and should not be the everyday parent of their grandchildren.

Raising children is the parents' job. Going to spend a night with Grandparents should be special, and a once in a while thing, weekly maybe but certainly not daily.

I see people all too often dumping their children off on other people for no other reason then they want to go partying or for other reasons.

You had the kids, now raise them. If it means that one of you works nights while the other works days then so be it. Stop pushing your duties off on other people.

SharkMinnow (Canada):

In Canada, children are not brought up by their grandparents. Young adults are taught to be independent and take care of their own kids.

Grandparents can visit, but they do not live in the house and raise the children. That is a very big cultural difference between China and the West.

If young people in Canada are not independent, financially stable to have children, then they are discouraged from doing so. Many Westerners think Chinese are immature and spoiled this way in the fact they just have their parents raise their kids.

RexTEC (China):

I'd like to take care of my child by myself, but the reality is my wife and I have to work in another city which is far away from our hometown.

We have to leave my child in the hometown with my parents before we have the ability to move my baby and parents to the city. I think most young couples who are working far away from home face a similar predicament.

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