My boyfriend can't be seen with me because of race, religion

Dear Thelma,

Recently, I started dating W whom I met in college. He was really quiet at first but as we got better acquainted, we grew very fond of each other and W confessed his feelings for me.

A few months into the relationship, one of W's family members texted me and asked me to stop bothering him. I was scared, and asked him what his family thought of me.

W told me that his family knew about our relationship, and that they were very much against it. I was hurt that his parents could not accept me just because we are of different race and religion.

I was upset that W had hidden this from me, but he said it was because he did not want me to be worried. As we are living under our parents' roof, W claimed he had no freedom to openly be in a relationship with me.

We constantly worry about being seen together, even in college, as W has a relative in the same class as us, and who acts as a spy for the family.

I've confronted W many times and offered to break up with him since we have known each other for only a few months and there does not seem to be a future for us as he cannot stand up to his parents.

I told him if the relationship has to end, it might as well be now rather than years down the road. But W is adamant that if we love each other, we should be able to conquer all obstacles.

I really like this guy and don't want to break up with him. I don't want something like religion to stop us from being together, but if we can't find a solution to our differences, what can I do?

I don't want an uncertain future and all this sneaking around upsets me. W will always find a way to change the topic whenever I broach the subject. I don't know what to do. But I do know that W does not want to break up with me. I've seen relationships like ours end badly, and I don't want that to happen to us.

- Lost