>> ASIAONE / NEWS / ASIAONE NEWS / ASIAN OPINIONS / STORY

Now with the male-female ratio in China decidedly greater on the male side, why don't more expatriate women increase their dating pool and seek out local Chinese men?

Well even if the single white female is relatively conversant in Chinese, there's a physical obstacle. It's embarrassing when your boyfriend's jeans are smaller than your own. It may harken back to that "hunter-gatherer" thing, but generally, women want men who are tall enough to see over their foreheads (Tom Cruise excepted).

Chinese men, unlike Chinese women, are more risk-averse and less comfortable swimming in the uncharted seas of cross-cultural relationships. Chinese men are more tradition bound and especially in the age of the one-child family, bear a heavy filial duty to their parents. Sons are expected to take care of their parents, but in reality it's the wife's duty to serve the in-laws. And Po po and Gong gong are none too happy when laowai girlfriend plans to kidnap their son to Phuket for Spring Festival instead of staying at home and rolling jiaozi with them. Yes, parents can be a buzz kill.

And true or not (but mostly true), expatriate women carry the reputation for being very vocal about what they think and want. Few are the Chinese men who will put up with losing face over inadvertent statements made by their expatriate girlfriends. So unless the single white female is fluent in Chinese and understands the culture, a Chinese man will be reluctant to start something he knows will end badly.

With all these advantages to Chinese women, what's a single white female to do? There's fading hope in quasi-social networking cocktails or maybe another awkward evening matched up with the only other single at your friend's dinner party or worst yet, waking up in someone's hand-me-down IKEA bed in a fourth floor walk-up after a mind-numbing night of vodka shots at the local pub.

Yes girlfriend, if China will be your life, then go native; if not then, better luck back on your home turf. Match.com is waiting.

Bookmark and Share
 
 
STORY INDEX
 
  Do men hate condoms?
   
 
  False alarm: What's behind the Google search block report?
   
 
  Why white men prefer Asian ladies to their own kind
   
 
  Malaysia shrinking
   
 
  Discipline the Little Napoleons
   
 
  Freshman camp = softies' paradise?
   
 
  A great brain loss for the country
   
 
  Real-life angels in a selfish world
   
 
  I can make my own money!
   
 
  What now, boss?
   
>> RELATED STORY
Sin Jie does charity work while on honeymoon
M'sian couple cremated in separate ceremonies
Students in uniform get 'married' in school
Men more likely than women to leave partner with cancer
Couple found dead in Fragrance Hotel

Elsewhere in AsiaOne...

Digital: White hot

Just Women: Sexual boredom and stinky spouses

 

We welcome contributions, comments and tips.
a1admin@sph.com.sg
Search AsiaOne: