Young mum posts 'shocking' photo of sagging belly covered in stretch marks, gains support from netizens

Young mum posts 'shocking' photo of sagging belly covered in stretch marks, gains support from netizens
PHOTO: Facebook/Doreen Ching

Stretch marks - or a mother's 'tiger stripes' as they're sometimes called - are the bane, or worry, of many mums-to-be.

Despite the stigma, one woman in Malaysia bravely bared her pregnancy scars online, attracting some mean comments but also an outpouring of support from netizens around the world.

The 23-year-old Malaysian woman bemoaned how the loose skin on her belly and deep stretch marks have caused her to suffer emotionally and gave her an 'inferiority complex'.

In the photo and caption uploaded to her social media pages on March 15, Johor resident Doreen Ching described how the skin covering her stomach was no longer the same again after the birth of her quadruplets more than two years ago.

生了四胞胎的肚子👦🏻👦🏻👦🏻👧🏻 我收到很多妈咪的询问 询问我怎样消除妊辰纹这回事 我只能说我的肚子 照片你看不出 但是你近看你会吓死....这就是代价 就算你有钱也没办法消除的痕迹 这样跟就是一辈子 天天就是看着 天天就是摸着 怀孕的时候 身边都人都安慰我说 生了过后会浅的 我心想我才21岁那个肚子永远都这样我该怎样好?结果我出产房的第一件事 就是看着自己的肚子 眼泪直接就要标出来 我的是裂到很严重的那种裂 几乎皮肤组织都是损坏的 我想过镭射 但是镭射根本都不会起任何的作用 天天看着 天天纠结着 对一个

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壬辰纹以上很多人都误会 但我要澄清一点 那是我的肋骨 生完孩子肚皮松弛 所以很容易看到肋骨 角度问题

Posted by Doreen Ching on Thursday, 15 March 2018

Said Ching, who is a seller of weight-loss and beauty products: "You can't see it in photos, but when you see my stomach up close you'll get a shock... This is the price to pay. Even if you have money you won't be able to erase the marks.

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"I thought to myself, I'm only 21, will my tummy be forever scarred?

"After birth, the first thing I did was look at my tummy and I burst into tears.

"The scarring is so severe, it has basically destroyed my skin's structure. Laser treatments can't do anything as well.

"Till this day, after more than two years, I still find it hard to accept that it's still like that and it gives me an inferiority complex.

"The hardest thing in the world is to be a mum. Why do we suffer to get pregnant? Why do we go through so much to give birth? Why must women go through the suffering? Why not men?"

At the end, she even asks her husband to "return my tummy to me".

Her post, which garnered more than 23,000 reactions and has been shared more than 12,000 times, struck a chord with many netizens, even among men.

While some expressed shock over her "scary"-looking marks, many praised Ching for her courage and sacrifice as a mother.

Despite the encouragement, not all reactions to her photo were positive.

In a follow-up post the next day, Ching said she'd received mean comments on her photo, calling it 'ugly', 'disgusting', with someone saying it 'made me feel like vomiting'.

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当昨天我发了一篇生了四胞胎后的丑肚皮👦🏻👦🏻👦🏻👧🏻 看到很多人评论 很多人评论很丑啊 很恶心啊 很想吐啊 还有些男人直接说 就是你们女人那么爱生 等等的话语 想想世界上应该大把有壬辰纹的女人吧👩请你们尊重全世界的女性 你妈你老婆也是女人...

Posted by Doreen Ching on Friday, 16 March 2018

She added that some men even put the blame on women for wanting kids.

再选择照片要送给帮我接生的医生 大家都知道我四宝是在麻坡氏妇产科出生的 有去过的妈咪们应该都会看到墙上我家四宝的照片 其实一直以来我都很感谢Dr Tey跟所有的护士的照顾跟鼓励 感谢医生每一次的用心检查 用心的确保我跟我肚子的四个孩子可以平平安安的 医生的经验真的很重要 再生产过程中 只有速度越快才能确保我不会失血过多 在生产中迷迷糊糊的我 一直隐隐约约的听到老公的声音以外 还有医生护士的鼓励 叫我不要睡下去 很快就好了 期间中胎盘黏上我的子宫壁 如果不快速缝针的话 可能会确保抱住我的命而切除子宫 感谢医

To these men and haters, she said: "Think about it, there are probably many women around the world who have stretch marks. Please respect them. Your mum, your wife, they are all women who can bring children into the world, can you?"

Ching's post has since gone viral online, attracting media attention around Asia and across the globe from Thailand and Taiwan to UK, Germany and Spain.

candicec@sph.com.sg

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