6 sexual fantasies you have that are totally normal
PUBLISHED ONOctober 12, 2019 12:00 AMByAdora Wong
Play out different sex scenarios in your mind a lot? That's nothing out of the ordinary-we are after all sexual beings.
"It's believed that our sexual responses are imprinted in us at an early age," says Dr Martha Tara Lee, a clinical sexologist at Eros Coaching.
"They happen randomly during certain critical periods in our psycho-sexual development, and certain images, stories and sexual responses will become our 'sex scripts' or what turn us on. It's also believed that these sexual fantasies remain with us for the rest of our lives."
But while it's healthy to have these sort of, there could be a host of problems if we act out fantasies that are potentially damaging.
"Sexual fantasies can fuel our erotic lives. However, they can become worrisome if we act out on [the destructive ones], like if we cheat on a partner or engage in harmful sexual behaviour," says Dr Lee.
"And if we get caught up in extreme fantasies, we can experience obsessive thinking, which can in turn be mentally exhausting."
Curious about the sexual fantasies us women have that are totally normal in her book? Scroll the gallery to find out what they are. That said, just because it's normal to have them doesn't mean that it's a good idea to bring all of them to life-some of them are better left to the imagination.
And if you want to bring the harmless fantasies to your partner's attention, check out this step-by-step guide on how you can do it right. You're welcome.
1. ORAL SEX
“Both giving and receiving head came up as a top sexual fantasy in one study. I can see why—many couples I know aren’t comfortable with oral sex and don’t do much of it. And because we want what we don’t have, this is understandably a fantasy we’d have. Most people I know view giving oral sex as an act of submission. However, you can choose to see giving oral sex as an act of dominance—taking what’s yours or controlling the pleasure of another.”
2. SEX IN PUBLIC